Self-Defense and Safety Tips:  Awareness Part 2 -  May 2002

Self-Defense Tips by Alain Burrese

Awareness Part 2

Last time, I set forth the importance of being aware of what is going on around you.  Remember what color your awareness level should be at during most activities?  Yellow!  Aware of what is going on around you.

There is an additional thing you must be aware of for your personal safety.  You must be aware of yourself, and how your actions are effecting the situation.  Most situations can be avoided and de-escalated.  However, more often than not, when words start being exchanged between two angry people, the confrontation heats up until someone gets physical and pushes or throws a punch.  Or there is the famous challenge, “Let’s take it outside!”  Then both people go outside to fight.  In these situations, you are aware that a physical situation may erupt, but you do nothing to prevent it, instead if you go outside, your actions are increasing the possibility of violence and your being hurt.

How are your words and actions effecting the situation?  Are you escalating things by your deeds?  Simple politeness and courtesy can go a long ways in preventing injuries to yourself.  In addition, when you do see or sense something amiss, do you ignore it and walk down the dark street alone anyway?  Or do you take an alternate route, go with someone, or take some other action to prevent an assault?

I often tell people that I can go into a "biker bar" and get along just fine, or I can go in and really get stomped.  Same place and I am aware of the place I am in, so what is different?  The way I act!  If I go in and get along, more often than not things are fine.  However, if I went in bad mouthing anyone and everyone who rode a Harley, how long do you think I'd last?  Not that long I'm sure, and it's not something I want to find out.  Sure, this example is very obvious, but many situations are just as obvious if you really look at them and are aware of what you are doing to effect the situation.  Think of how to make it better and go home safe, not how tough you can be and what you will do to anyone who starts something with you.  Self-defense is a plan, and attitude, a way to act and live, all of the practices you do; not just knowing how to hurt someone physically or "kick butt."

Just remember, be aware of what is going on around you, but also know how what you are doing and saying is effecting the situation.  A combination of these two will keep you out of most physical altercations, and that’s what true self-defense is; keeping yourself from harm.

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